Oh, I'm sorry. -snug- Do your best to try to convince her to let your cat stay. I know how important bonds with an animal can be, so I really do hope you get to keep her. Best wishes.

Rye: Thank you… But I she will not give up… I know my mum

Zadavias_Spirit: That’s the point, I don’t know! I was begging for years and she hardly finally agreed. So I guess she was waiting for my first mistake to say: ‘Hey, you don’t deserve a cat!’

I try not to think about it, but she just (the cat) comes to me, like she knows, with these blue/grey eyes looking at me, like saying ‘Don’t leave me…’ I can’t…

You have a bond with "the animal"?  You could at least call her your "companion".  Ah, well.  You must be overcome with too much grief to think about that.  Anyway, parents can be cruel.  They allow you to have something that you really care for...and then they take it away, for seemingly no reason at all.  Maybe your mother has a reason...it may be financial problems (which I highly doubt, but it is a possibility), an allergy (doubtful), or a phobia (again, doubtful).  You could ask your mother as to why she wants you to part ways with your feline companion.  Maybe you could work something out.

Look on the bright side; at least your companion is not terminally ill.

OMG I HATE YOUR MOM. This is getting psycho, and I'm not serious about this, but tell her is the cat goes, you go to and hold a gun to your head. >_> Parents like this make me SO ****ing sick to my stomach. Your mom needs to get a life. It's not like it's a boyfriend that you're asking to keep, it's an animal that deserves love and attention.

>_> I want to shoot your mom. And mine, for that matter. This is child abuse in my eyes, and it always has been. Emotional abuse, which this is by allowing you to develop a strong bond with the cat and then taking her away, is still abuse, possibly worse than physical abuse. It's not fair to you nor the cat, because she clearly has bonded with you. Like humans, cats, animals for that matter, DO have emotions. I hate most animals, cats are the only ones I've been able to bond with, but look into a neglected animals eyes, and you'll see the pain and depression in their eyes just like a human. When a dog brings you a ball to play with it, you can see the happiness and love in it's eyes. The eyes are in fact the window to the soul, and every living thing has one.

So not only is it emotional abuse on you, but the cat as well. Wrenching that cat away from you will hurt her as well, and it may even traumatise her. What if it goes to an abusive home? There's no sense in putting her at risk when she has done NOTHING to your mother. How would your mother feel if, after having had you for as long as you've had your cat, someone said, "Oh, I'm sorry, you can't keep her. It was just a trial run. We'll be going now."

Not good, would she? What if someone were to kidnap you? Would she not miss you? Would she not mourn your loss? What if you were to be kidnapped and killed? How would she feel knowing something she'd loved as much as you love your cat was gone, and she'd never see you again? Would she not feel horrible? Wouldn't she have regrets? "I should have loved her more", or "I shouldn't have done this or that to her?", would she not think that?

I'm stopping here, because I'm about to make myself cry.

Edit: Never mind, may as well continue.

"I syebye nye najdyosh v nye lyubymakh domakh (And don't find yourself in not loved [unloving] homes)"- t.A.T.u, "Vsya Moya Lyubov (All My Love)". I'd rather see it put down, or in fact, I'd rather see you KILL it yourself than it suffer the hands of evil humans. At least if it were dead, it wouldn't have that chance. I know you'd never do that, but I'd really rather that happen.

I would prefer your mom to STOP being pig-headed and be empathetic for a change- think about how you'd feel in that situation. And if she has been, then she needs to remember how it made her feel. If she didn't like it, genetics says you won't either. If this has happened to her, and she says it's her turn, I say therapy, because it's not fair to take that out on you. I had a crappy life, doesn't mean my kids need to suffer for it.

In conclusion, you ought to be able to keep the cat. If you were to make the above plea to her and she still said no, then she's a cruel and heartless bitch who deserves to burn in hell. I'm sorry, but this issue really burns me up. As apathetic as I am and *I* started to cry?

Good luck. And if it doesn't work, just remind her, that everything you do comes back to you times 3. The wheel of karma doth turn slowly, but it turns. You reap what you sow. You make your bed, you've got to lie in it. You get my point.

-- Edited by dOMITUPSYK at 17:43, 2008-04-24

DX Too bad you don't live near me. I bet my mom would take it. At least then you'd know she was safe. (Or do you? Spartanburg)

And XD to the cat stepping on the keyboard- mine used to do that all the time. I'd come back and find the randomest things typed on my 'board. XD

And it's not your fault the kitten died- as you said, you did the best you could, and it just wasn't meant to be, although I understand how you feel- we recently had 2 cats give birth at home, and the other cat (Tiny) would take Shadow's babies into the closet. The only way to achieve this was by jumping over the top of the door.

Basic point, one of them died, and I feel a little responsible for not being there to protect them from her (I was ran out of *my* house by my sister, long story), but as a friend of mine said, "That's not anyone's fault, especially yours. Even if you had been there, you couldn't watch Tiny 24/7, and she didn't mean to kill the kitten IF that's what happened, she was just trying to help Shadow take care of it."

... I had to help my grandma take out the trash, so I forgot what I was saying, but I think you get my drift. Which is "DX Poor LoonaticF, I know how you feel."

Rye: Thank you! ^_^

dOMITUPSYK: XD Maybe I could mail her to you…
Siren: ??????????????????
Me: Just kidding, relax…
I know it’s not my fault Lucky died. After all, when I found it, it was coughing out blood. What I’m blaming myself for, is giving it two more days of torture, because it seemed it was hardly alive, and I kept it alive, I extended its suffering no one can say that it’s not my fault. Two years ago, and I remember crying for weeks for it…
I’m glad I took all of my personality from my dad and I’m glad I have nothing in common with my mom. I’m done with her wanting to change me to a young her, I’m me, a stupid girl, who loves a cat more than anything and I will always be me and proud for being me (that's the greek self talking).
So remind me, if I start acting like my mom, to kill myself.

Ps: Call me Sophie…

Muy mom gave her away. To a pet shop. She didn't tell me where. I just have to start picking up the broken pieces of my heart now... But i really don't think that my heart will be able to be whole again.

She alreadygave her away.

You got that right. I still can't believe that she's gone.

That suchs!
I know the pain of loseing a cat very well. We've allways had cats and kittens and i get attached to each one, some more then others, then we have to give them up!

And You've wonted a cat so bad! I'm soooo sory for you loonaticsF.

GREAT! The computer double posted...

-- Edited by LoonaticsF at 12:34, 2008-06-08